How to think
(Not What to Think, You Silly Sausage)
Let me ask you something deeply philosophical and slightly uncomfortable:
Have you ever thought about... how you think?
No, not what you think — not the content. Not the daily commentary about laundry, carbs or whether Sheena at work is actually trying to undermine you.
I’m talking about the structure. The scaffolding. The whole neurocognitive plumbing system that spits thoughts into your conscious brain like soggy croutons into soup.
How do you think?
And more importantly — is it working for you?
Let’s Play “What Do You Want?”
Let’s make this practical.
Let’s say you want to lose weight — because let’s face it, that’s what a solid 83% of people come to me for.
And fair enough — you want to feel better, lighter, more energised, more in control, like the inner you isn’t wrapped in three emotional cardigans and a sugar coma.
So, how do you think about that goal right now?
Cue Greatest Hits of the Defeated Dieter:
“Doesn’t matter what I do, I can’t lose weight.”
“I always put it back on.”
“It just keeps creeping up — maybe there’s something wrong with me.”
“My metabolism is broken.”
“I looked at a croissant and gained 3 kilos.”
Sound familiar?
Spoiler: These Thoughts Are Crap
Now, take a breath.
And ask yourself this:
When you think thoughts like that... how do you feel?
Let me guess:
Flat.
Helpless.
Frustrated.
Like a tragic extra in your own life story, eating cereal out of the box and wondering why your jeans are conspiring against you.
And what do we do when we feel like that?
Certainly not meal prep.
Certainly not joyfully move our body like we’re in a Lululemon ad.
Nope.
We say, “Stuff it.” (Or the less polite version.)
We reach for the chips. We abandon the plan. We self-sabotage with the theatrical flair of Shakespearean tragedy.
Not because we’re lazy or undisciplined or broken.
But because we’re thinking unhelpful thoughts that feel true.
The Think-Feel-Do Loop (or: Why Your Brain Is a Bit of a Drama Queen)
Here’s the actual magic trick. Ready?
Your behaviour doesn’t emerge from a void like some mysterious burp from the universe.
Your actions come from how you feel.
And how you feel comes from what you think.
Let’s say that again like a spoken-word chorus:
You think a thought → you feel a feeling → you do a thing.
That’s it. That’s the code.
The whole recipe for your habits, your patterns, your Friday-night fridge raids.
Your Thoughts Are Optional (Even the Dodgy Ones)
Here’s the good news, the hopeful bit, the sunrise after the snackcident:
You are the thinker of your thoughts.
You! Not the media. Not your mum. Not that loud voice in your head pretending to be Reasonable Rachelle from HR.
You generate your thoughts. Which means you can change them.
You can choose to think things that make you feel…
empowered.
motivated.
calm.
in control (without needing to be controlling).
Curious.
Courageous.
Ready.
When you shift your thinking, you shift your energy.
When you shift your energy, you shift your behaviour.
When you shift your behaviour, you shift your reality.
Not by magic. Not by affirmations written on sticky notes in rose gold ink.
But by thinking on purpose.
Try This Thought On for Size
Instead of:
“Nothing ever works for me.”
Try:
“I’m discovering what works for me.”
Instead of:
“There must be something wrong with me.”
Try:
“There’s nothing wrong with me. I’m just learning how to look after myself differently.”
Instead of:
“I’ll never get there.”
Try:
“I’m not there yet.”
Those tiny shifts aren’t just words — they’re levers. And when you pull them, your feelings change. When your feelings change, your actions do too.
It’s brain chemistry, not woo-woo.
This Is Where the Real Change Happens
Weight loss isn’t about being good or strict or having a spreadsheet of sins.
It’s about thinking better. Feeling better. Acting better. Consistently.
It’s about noticing the thoughts that keep you stuck — and deciding to upgrade them like a dodgy old Nokia from 2003.
How you think is everything.
Not just what you think about kale.
But how you interpret setbacks.
How you talk to yourself in the mirror.
How you frame failure.
How you decide what’s possible.
Want to Know How to Think Like Someone Who Gets Results?
Get in touch. I’ll help you find thoughts that actually serve you —
not ones that keep you bloated, grumpy and Googling “how to lose weight in 24 hours.”
This isn’t about positive thinking.
It’s about powerful thinking.
And once you master that?
You won’t just lose weight. You’ll lose the limits you’ve been living under.
Boom.
Piano crash. Mic drop.
Let’s rewire that beautiful brain of yours.
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