Are You Waiting for the Right Time?

(An ode to the beautifully human art of putting things off)

Are you waiting?

Waiting for the chaos to settle?
For life to get simpler?
For your energy to return, your inbox to behave or for a slightly more enlightened version of yourself to appear and take the reins?

Maybe you’re waiting for motivation to arrive — gliding in on a yoga mat, sipping green juice and whispering something inspiring about kale and personal growth.

If so, you’re not alone.

We all do it.

We wait for a feeling. For clarity. For a quieter day.
But let’s be honest: how’s that going so far?

The Myth of the “Right Time”

The “right time” sounds noble. Sensible. Responsible, even.

But if we’re really being honest?

It’s usually code for:

“I don’t feel ready.”
“This feels hard.”
“I’m scared to start and fail… again.”

That’s not laziness. That’s just your brain being a brain.

Your brain is wired to favour familiarity and avoid discomfort — even if that “familiar” thing is something you’ve been wanting to change for years.

It’s not a personal flaw.
But it is worth seeing.

Because the truth?

There is no perfect moment.
There’s just now.
Unfolding. Messy. Unpredictable. And still completely available to you.

“I’m Too Busy”

This one’s a classic. So common it could have its own merch line.

And yes — life is full. Work. Kids. Mental load. Dinner. Repeat.

But “busy” is often just a convenient placeholder for disconnected. From yourself. From what matters. From the quiet voice inside that says,

“I want more than this.”
“I’m tired.”
“I matter, too.”

The truth is, we find time for what we prioritise. And often, we’re the last one on our own list.

Not because we’re bad people. Just because we’ve been conditioned to believe everyone else’s needs come first.

But that’s not sustainable. And it’s not required.

You don’t earn your worth by burning out.

Real Change Is Small, Awkward and Totally Unimpressive

Here’s where things get clearer.

Change doesn’t come in a lightning bolt.

It comes in small moments of choosing differently.

Tiny acts that feel almost too small to matter — until they do.

It might look like:

• Drinking a glass of water before your coffee

• Pausing when you feel the pull to eat and checking in first

• Closing your laptop at 9pm instead of doom-scrolling

• Whispering, “I’m doing okay,” when the old voice says you’re not

These aren’t dramatic.
But they’re how you start to build something real.

You’re Not Lazy — You’re Just Human

That resistance you feel? That “ugh, not today” energy?

It’s not proof that you’re flawed.
It’s proof that you’re wired to avoid discomfort. That’s what brains do.

But the part of you reading this right now?

That’s the part that knows.

Knows you want something different.
Knows that waiting hasn’t worked.
Knows that you’re capable of more than all-or-nothing cycles and guilt-laced plans.

And that part?

It doesn’t need the perfect plan.
It just needs a quiet, honest moment of:

“What’s one kind thing I could do for myself today?”

Try This

Ask yourself:

What would Future Me thank me for?

Maybe it’s a walk.
Maybe it’s skipping the second glass of wine.
Maybe it’s choosing rest instead of pushing through.

Doesn’t have to be big.
Just has to be now.

Final Thoughts (Delivered Kindly, Not From a Soapbox)

There is no “right time.”

There’s just this moment.
And it’s enough.

Not because you’re finally ready.
But because you’re already worthy. And small steps taken from self-respect will always take you further than big ones driven by guilt.

So stop waiting.

Show up. Imperfectly. Awkwardly. Lovingly.

Do something your future self will quietly smile at.

And then tomorrow?

Do it again.

No drama. No glitter.

Just real life. And a little more you in the driver’s seat. Gathering momentum.

(Confetti optional. Self-respect not.)