You Can Always Change Your Mind

It sounds obvious to say that you can change your mind. Most people would agree with that in theory.

But in practice, especially around weight and food, many people forget.

Jenny began our first conversation by saying, “I guess I’m just meant to be fat.”

She’d tried everything. Years of dieting. Doing what she was told. Doing what was meant to work. When she stepped on the scales and saw the number, something in her seemed to shut down.

It wasn’t the number itself that paralysed her.
It was the conversation that followed.

How did you let this happen?
What’s wrong with you?
You should know better.

That kind of thinking can feel strangely convincing. And once it takes hold, it can seem as though there’s no alternative but to accept it.

But there always is.

The mind has a habit of arguing against us rather than for us. It presents its conclusions as facts. And when we don’t realise that we’re allowed to question them, we start living as if they’re true.

Changing your mind doesn’t mean forcing positive thoughts or pretending everything is fine. It simply means noticing that the story you’re telling yourself isn’t the only one available.

In Jenny’s case, she was focused entirely on her body — trying to fix it, correct it, get it under control. But what was really weighing her down was the relentless pressure in her thinking. Once that began to soften, everything else became easier.

When thinking relaxes, behaviour often changes on its own. People eat more sensibly. They move more naturally. Not because they’re trying harder, but because they’re no longer fighting themselves.

This isn’t about rules or restriction. And it isn’t about self-improvement. It’s about self-relationship.

When people start relating to themselves with a little more kindness, they tend to take better care of themselves. Not as a strategy, but as a natural response. From there, life tends to find a healthier rhythm.

If something feels like a struggle, that’s often a sign to pause and look at what you’re believing in that moment. Not to fix it — just to notice.

You’re never as stuck as your thinking might suggest.

And whenever you see that, even briefly, you’ve already changed your mind.