Words Matter

There’s a lot of power in the way we talk to ourselves.
Not just the dramatic, obvious stuff — but the quiet commentary running in the background. The throwaway lines. The little jokes. The labels we repeat so often we forget they’re optional.

We pick up these words over time.
Sometimes they’re handed to us early on:
“You’re the messy one.”
“You’ve always had a big appetite.”
“You just don’t have much willpower.”
They might seem innocent. Teasing, even. But they plant themselves. And we rarely pause to ask if they’re true.

Other times, the words are our own — built from years of trying to measure up, fix ourselves or figure out what’s “wrong.”

“I’m being so bad.”
“I’ve ruined everything now.”
“I can’t trust myself around food.”

They feel factual. Objective. Like we’re simply describing reality. But they’re not.
They’re just thoughts — shaped by old stories, culture, conditioning — showing up like they always have.

And they matter.
Not because they’re true (they aren’t), but because we believe them.

You’re Listening to a Broken Record

The voice in your head doesn’t come from who you really are.
It’s not wise, or all-knowing or trying to help you thrive.
It’s just a pattern — a loop of old thinking showing up again and again.

And the more it talks, the more it sounds like you.
But it’s not.

You’re the one hearing it — not the one saying it.

The voice says, “You have no self-control” and something in you believes it.
Not because it’s true — but because it’s familiar.

It says, “You’ll never change,” and you feel that familiar sinking sensation.
Not because it’s true — but because you believe it.

That’s how this works.

Thoughts appear. They feel real. We react to them.

But they’re not premonitions.
Your brain doesn’t have a crystal ball. It can’t predict the future. Doesn’t stop it trying though.

When you begin to see thoughts as separate from you — as nothing personal — everything changes.
They’re not you. They’re just what minds do: they chatter, they spin stories, they fill in blanks, they talk incessantly.

And when you stop taking that mental noise so seriously…Everything changes.

You Don’t Have to Argue With the Voice — Just See It for What It Is

There’s no need to replace every negative thought with a positive one.
That’s just more thinking. More work.

Instead, notice the voice but know that you’re not it.

That tiny bit of awareness — that pause — is everything.

Because in that space, something quieter shows up.

Something wiser.

Something that knows you’re not broken, or behind or hopeless.
Something that doesn’t measure your worth by what you ate today or what size jeans you wear.

That something is you.

Real Change Happens From Insight, Not Effort

The world will offer a thousand food rules, affirmations and mindset hacks.
But none of them matter if you’re still caught in a web of harsh, critical thinking you don’t even realise you’re believing.

When you begin to hear that thinking as thinking, not truth — it starts to lose its power.

And without all that noise, you’re left with clarity. Space.
With the natural wisdom to eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full — not because you forced yourself to, but because your mind is quiet, so you’re now able to hear your body.

Some thoughts show up uninvited — that’s just what minds do.
But you can choose what to believe.
And you can choose what to say.

So when you do?

Speak like someone who gives a damn.
Because you are always listening.